Those closest to me, including my family and teammates, can affirm my OCD when it comes to the language they use to express themselves. Often, they accuse me of hastily judging them based on their words, even when their intention is otherwise.
I keep telling them- Watch your language !!
It is essential to recognize that our words profoundly impact our thoughts, emotions, and subsequent actions, influencing the outcomes we experience. Unconsciously, we often employ certain words and phrases that have the power to pull our energy down and limit us. Here are a few examples of language patterns that greatly bother me:
- “I’ll try to do it.” This phrase denotes uncertainty and lacks confidence. By choosing these words, we subconsciously convince ourselves that we are not competent enough to complete the task, diminishing the likelihood of success. Instead, eliminate “try” and simply say, “I’ll do it.” If it’s not feasible, be honest and say, “I will not do it.”
- “I don’t know; what can I do?” This language reflects a sense of helplessness and an aversion to taking responsibility. Alternatively, adopting a more empowering approach involves asking, “What can I do to improve this situation when it’s not working?”
- “I don’t have the time.” This phrase indicates overwhelm and an unwillingness to explore possibilities and opportunities. A better choice of language would be, “Currently, it’s not something I want to pursue. I am focusing on other priorities.”
Changing the language you use is crucial if you desire different outcomes from those that leave you dissatisfied. You can alter your biochemistry, emotions, thoughts, and subsequent actions by transforming your regular vocabulary. However, if you remain unaware, these words can unconsciously restrict and limit you without your knowledge.
Your beliefs become your thoughts; Your thoughts become your words; Your words become your actions; Your actions become your habits; Your habits become your values; Your values become your destiny.
Mahatma Gandhi