Own My Growth

Helping folks with practical tips to manage themselves better

Embrace Solitude

Many feel uncomfortable with the idea of solitude. But, it is fundamental to any creative problem solving. ​


Daily Interactions

Our daily interactions are a key indicator of future success—improving the quality of these connections drives better outcomes.


Weekend Story-The Priest And Three Questions

Priest and three questions

Once upon a time, a priest on a walking tour in pre-revolutionary Russia was confronted by a soldier as he entered the town. The soldier pointed his bayonet at the priest and called out,  The priest was unfazed. Instead of Read more…


Beware Of The Curse Of Knowledge

curse of knowledge

In 1990, Elizabeth Newton, a Ph.D. candidate at Stanford University, did a study to check how confident people were about communicating some message to someone and how successful they were in getting the message across to the recipient.  In the Read more…


Don’t Be Your Own Bottleneck

Don't be your own bottleneck

Working in technology has given me the chance to build solutions that genuinely improve productivity, reduce risk, and create better customer experiences. A few times over the years, the solution simply did not exist yet. My team and I had Read more…


The Urgency Trap

urgency

I used to wear urgency like a badge. Always on. Always responding. Always moving. I told myself this was leadership. But I had unconsciously trained everyone around me to believe that everything was a fire. And once you do that, Read more…


Weekend Story-Hole In The Boat

Hole in the boat

A man once asked a painter to paint his small boat red. The painter arrived early in the morning with his brushes, sandpaper, and paint. The boat was old, but well-loved. It had carried the family across the lake for Read more…


The Company Our Mind Keeps

The company our mind keeps

Everything we create begins as a thought. A business. A decision. A relationship. A change in direction. Long before it becomes visible, it first takes shape in the mind. Which makes me think about something else. Where do our thoughts Read more…


Assume Misunderstanding

Assume Misunderstanding

Someone does not respond the way you expected. A colleague leaves you out. A customer goes quiet. A friend says something that feels dismissive. Our mind is quick to build a story around it. They do not respect me. They Read more…


Faster, Higher, Narrower

faster

The more I think about personal growth, the more I feel it comes down to three things. Go faster. Hold higher standards. Narrow your focus. Take speed. Most of us move slower than we need to. We let things sit. Read more…


Ah, Now I Get It !!

Ah,Now I Get It

Some of my best teachers, mentors, and coaches had one thing in common. They almost never gave me the answer. They created the conditions for me to figure it out myself. There is a big difference between being told something Read more…


Open Windows

open windows

I keep a daily journal where I track what I need to do, what I actually did, and my energy levels through the day. I call unfinished tasks “open windows”, things that are still occupying some part of my attention. Read more…


Listening Is The Help

Listening Is The Help

I think of myself as a good problem-solver. Someone brings me a problem, I offer a solution. At work, with my team. At home, with my wife. With my children. A problem shows up, and my mind immediately starts fixing Read more…


Weekend Story-Who Cares What You Think?

who cares what you think?

A young man went to a Zen master. After practicing for a time, the student went off on his own with instructions to faithfully send a letter to the master every month, giving an account of his spiritual progress. In Read more…