Something I keep reinforcing with my sons.
We spend a surprising amount of energy managing how other people see us.
Adjusting what we say.
Second-guessing our decisions.
Softening our choices to fit what we think others expect.
And when the reaction still isn’t what we hoped for, we take it personally.
But the way someone perceives what you do is a result of their own experiences, which you can’t control. Their own preferences, which you can’t predict. And their own expectations, which you did not create.
Their perception is not a verdict on your choices.
It is a reflection of their own lens.
You will never be able to make the right impression on everyone. Not because you are getting it wrong, but because everyone is watching through a different window.
Do the work. Think through your choices. Act with integrity.
If your choices don’t match someone else’s expectations, that is their concern.
Not yours.