Think of one thing that didn’t go well today.
Now think of one thing that went really well.
Which came to mind faster?
Whenever I try this, the first answer is effortless. My brain instantly recalls what went wrong — a task delayed, a comment that didn’t land well, something I wish I had done better. Even on good days, the negatives stand out.
This isn’t a flaw; it’s evolution. Our ancestors survived by spotting threats, not sunsets. That same survival wiring now keeps us from enjoying our days. This negativity bias is our mind’s default setting, and it clouds how we see life.
Years ago, I built a small ritual to rewire it. Each night, I write down three things that went well, one big win, and one thing I could have done better.
It’s not about forced optimism. It’s about balance — giving the good moments as much attention as the bad ones. Over time, this simple act has helped rewire my focus.
Even on tough days, there’s always something worth feeling good about — if you remember to look.