Don’t Jump To Problem- Solve
May 11, 2023
There are times when I jump into solution mode when someone(especially my kids)brings a problem to me.
I erroneously assume that they are bringing the problem to me because they need me to offer a solution. Unfortunately, this can feel patronizing and irritating for them.
Being a trained coach, I also know what the right approach is. Sadly, I struggle with it.
Instead of assuming that the person needs a solution from me, I should actually be clarifying what it is they need from me.
What is the best way I can help you here?
Do you need me to
- Give you a listening ear so that you can get the issue out of your system?
- Do you need me to problem-solve the issue for you?
- Do you need me to brainstorm the issue with you?
Clarifying this upfront ensures that I am helping out in the way the other person needs me to.