Own My Growth

Helping folks with practical tips to manage themselves better


Month: November 2021

A Zen Story

Zen Story

The Obaku-San Temple in Kyoto, Japan, features a wooden carving right at the top of the entrance that reads, “The First Principle.”  This 200-year-old carving, a creation of Master Kosen, features large, unusually detailed letters that many consider a masterpiece Read more…

Self Determination Theory

Self Determination Theory

One of my mentees has recently become a first-time manager, leading a five member team. He reached out to me seeking advice on what he must focus on to be a good leader/manager. Instead of answering the question straight away, Read more…

Confucian Wisdom

Confucian Wisdom

I first got introduced to Confucian wisdom when one of my mentors quoted him while giving me feedback about having a sense of direction and presence. That quote is permanently etched in my memory – ” to know where you are Read more…

Coach Yourself To Deal With Your Ruminations


We all have this unfortunate tendency to keep ruminating about upsetting and distressing things, and we do it in entirely unproductive ways. “I have so much work to do.”” I am so stressed. My research work is not moving well.”“Why Read more…

Inspiration Strikes When Your Mind Is Free

Inspiration Strikes

Isaac Newton was on a leisure walk in Cambridge when he noticed an apple falling. Seeing this from a distance triggered a flash of inspiration that led him to formulate the laws of gravity. Archimedes, the Greek polymath, was taking Read more…

True Wisdom

True Wisdom

People in ancient Greece believed that the Oracle of Delphi, Pythia was the voice of the Apollo, the god of archery, music and dance, truth, and prophecy. Once, someone approached the Oracle Pythia and wanted to know who was the Read more…

Your Reputation Is In Your Actions

your reputation is in your actions

You say you are an honest person. Yet, you conveniently lie when you are caught in a pickle, even if it is just a white lie. You say you want to control your diet and lose weight. Yet, when you Read more…

Rule No 6

Rule No 6

In the face of difficulty, we can despair, get angry ……..Or choose possibility. This is the essence of one of the most practical yet inspiring and uplifting books in my library- The Art of Possibility by Rosamund and Benjamin Zander. Read more…

Hope And Expectation

Hope and Expectation

We hope something will happen We expect something will happen. Hope and Expectation seem the same, but they are not. Expectation Is A Killer Of Joy.  When you have expectations, it means you have a rigid desire for some outcomes Read more…

Four Types Of Questions

Four Types of Questions

A couple of months back, I wrote a blog Questions Enlighten More Than The Answers. A reader reached out to me asking me to write about how to get better at asking questions. Is there a framework one can refer Read more…