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Do the Work. Don’t Grade It

don't grade

For years, I wanted to write. But I kept judging what I wrote before I had really begun. Is this good enough? Is it worth sharing? Will anyone care? The judgment became the reason I never started. That changed in Read more…


Look for the Ingredients

Ingredients

In technology selling, we think our job is to sell a product. It is not. The real job is to understand the client’s pain deeply enough to shape something that actually solves it. In that sense, a good salesperson is Read more…


Solver Or Spotter?

solver vs spotter

In any situation, people tend to approach problems in one of two ways. One asks, “How do we solve for this?” The other is brilliant at explaining everything that is wrong, every risk, every flaw, every reason it may not Read more…


When Values And Actions Part Ways

values and acitons

My thirties were among the most successful years of my career. I was growing fast, climbing, achieving. And, paradoxically, they were also some of the unhappiest years of my life. For a long time, that made no sense to me. Read more…


An Expression, Not a Means

An Expression

I was listening to a spiritual master’s discourse this evening, and in the middle of an explanation, he said something that stopped me. Success should never be a means to happiness. Success should be an expression of happiness. Sometimes, one Read more…


Weekend Story-What She Said

what she said

A couple moved to a small town and began visiting the local library. The librarian was distant. She barely looked up, offered little help, and seemed annoyed whenever they asked for anything. One afternoon, the woman complained about the librarian Read more…


The Lesson Repeats

Lesson Repeats

You miss your forecast one quarter. You call it an aberration. You miss it again the next quarter. You blame the product. You miss it a third time, and something stirs. Is there something I am not seeing? For the Read more…


Commitment

commitment

Commitment is a strange thing. Before we decide, everything feels hazy. What if we choose wrong? So, we keep our options open, protect an exit and wait for more clarity. But the moment we decide fully, our attention sharpens. We Read more…


Accepting What Is

Acceptance What is

In many team discussions, the argument quickly becomes about who is right. Sales blames delivery. Delivery blames product. Product blames the brief. Everyone has a point. Everyone also has a blind spot. Usually, there is one reality and several interpretations Read more…


The Biggest Prison Has No Walls

The Biggest Prison

Before hitting the bed, you set the alarm for 6 a.m. No one forced you. But you have decided on your own to start a morning routine. The alarm rings. Immediately, a negotiation begins. “You slept late.” “One more hour Read more…