The Story You Carry Forward

Sometimes an event is over, but we are still carrying it.

You can carry the same event in two ways.

You can keep seeing it mainly through what it did to you, the hurt, the loss, the helplessness. Or you can begin to see it through what it took for you to get through it, the strength you found, what you learned, what you survived.

The event has not changed. And the pain may not have disappeared. But the story you carry forward can change.

So when you find yourself seeing only what the experience did to you, try telling the story again.

What did it take to overcome it? What strength did it reveal?

That version is just as true. But it helps you see not just what happened to you, but what you were capable of getting through.