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Tag: mental model

When Does One Retire?


In my mid-thirties, I harbored a romantic notion that I would earn some pot money by the time I was forty-five or fifty, and then I would retire. Retirement seemed synonymous with freedom, where I was not obligated to anyone, Read more…

To Look Ahead, It Pays To Look Backwards

Look Backwards

The ability to solve problems is a fundamental life skill. For most people, occasionally, problem-solving is a conscious activity, but most of the time, it happens unconsciously and instinctively. Good problem-solvers, however, don’t depend on instinct and chance. Instead, they Read more…

Freudenfreude vs Schadenfreude


In most relationships, there will come a time when you will desire what the other person has or gets. When we encounter situations where others get something good, many of us cannot help or stop comparing ourselves to their state. Read more…

Paradox Of Focus


Focusing on one task at a time is very useful for productivity. However, sometimes when we focus too intensely on any particular task, we tend to become blind-sighted to everything else. This could be problematic. I was exposed to this Read more…

Focus On The Task

Focus on the task

This was about two decades back. I was leading a specific project that required me to pitch it to a few key stakeholders. Once, I was asked to present an update on the project to the firm’s CEO. While I Read more…

How Strong Is Your Integrity?


Warren Buffet once said about the attributes he looks for when recruiting anyone: “We look for three things when we hire people. We look for intelligence, we look for initiative or energy, and we look for integrity. And if they don’t Read more…

Bertrand Russell’s Ten Commandments

Bertrand Russell's Ten Commandments

In 1951, writer Bertrand Russell published an article in The New York Times Magazine titled “The Best Answer to Fanaticism-Liberalism,” in which he argues that liberalism in “Its calm search for truth, viewed as dangerous in many places, remains the hope of Read more…

Have Faith- All Will Be Well

Have faith

Many of us take life too seriously. Anxiety is often our first response when we encounter conflict, problems, and challenges. Paradoxically, we feel guilty if we don’t feel a sense of worry. Subconsciously we think: “If I really care, I’ll worry. Read more…

Dream Big

dream big

A few days back, I was in a business review with a young colleague., evaluating some performance metrics associated with a critical but high-stakes agenda we had embarked on a few months back. It was something we had never done Read more…

Help By Not Helping


Imagine a five-year-old having trouble tying their shoes. What would your instinct be? You would want to help the child, right? The instinct might be well placed, but it is preferable to control it. I learned this from experience. Once, Read more…