Anger-An Early Warning System
September 30, 2023
Why does one get angry?
In the past week, I distinctly remember three instances where I was genuinely angry and upset.
First, there was an argument with my wife about some decisions we couldn’t agree on.
The second was when a colleague dropped some negative news on me.
The third- someone interrupted me when I was deep in concentration, focused on a task.
Looking back on these moments, I realize that anger isn’t just a tool I use to get my way in certain situations; it’s actually a real-time message my mind sends, signaling that I’m not in control of that situation.
In those moments, I lack the know-how or the emotional intelligence to take charge, so I use my position, age, experience, and authority as a shield to project my anger onto others.
Anger is an early warning system, letting me know I’m feeling vulnerable or weak at that particular moment.
The next time I get triggered with anger welling up, I can use this awareness to regain control more constructively. Instead of reacting impulsively, It’s an opportunity for me to pause, take a deep breath, reassess, and figure out a more effective way to navigate the situation.